Meet Khala
I’m an eldest daughter, a mother of two (7 and 4), and Life Coach & Ancestral Healing Guide for Eldest Daughters.
For most of my life, I could do anything…and often did. I was the dependable one, the one who made things happen, who could hold it all together when no one else could. But even with all that capability, I often felt unsure of who I was beneath it all.
I knew I was gifted (intuitive, creative, and visionary), but I didn’t always feel confident naming or owning those gifts. I could help others see their strengths clearly, yet struggled to see my own. I had checked every box of what success “should” look like, but I still felt lost, disconnected, and unfulfilled.
Therapy helped me understand the why behind those patterns, but it was through ancestral healing that I finally found the how: how to trust myself, how to listen to my intuition, and how to stand fully in the gifts that have been with me all along.
Ancestral healing helped me remember that clarity isn’t something we chase. It’s something we return to. It’s what happens when we stop performing strength and start honoring our lineage, our intuition, and our own truth.
The Turning Point
For much of my life, I felt like I was piecing together a story without a map. My mom was adopted, and I don’t have a relationship with my dad’s side of the family, so my lineage felt like it ended with her. I often wondered where my gifts came from, why I was drawn to certain things, or why I carried such a deep sense of responsibility.
That longing to know where I came from became the doorway to my healing.
Through ancestral work, I began to understand that the answers I’d been searching for weren’t missing. They were waiting for me in my body, my lineage, and my lived experience. Connecting with my ancestors helped me see my gifts clearly for the first time. It showed me that my voice, intuition, and ability to guide others were not accidents. They were inheritances.
Motherhood deepened that understanding. It cracked something open in me. Becoming a mom brought both joy and reckoning. The realization that I couldn’t keep holding everyone else while ignoring my own needs. The same patterns that had once protected me (over-giving, perfectionism, carrying more than my share) no longer fit the life I wanted to model for my children.
In many ways, motherhood became another initiation. One that asked me to redefine what strength, rest, and abundance meant. It brought my ancestral healing into sharper focus, reminding me that tending to myself is also a way of tending to them, and to the generations that came before us.
My life has always been a series of transitions. Seasons of change that have stretched, refined, and sometimes broken me open. Some I’ve welcomed with excitement; others I’ve dreaded for their heaviness and uncertainty. But ancestral healing taught me that every transition carries wisdom.
I stopped viewing change as something to survive and began to see it as an initiation: a sacred reminder to pause, listen, and root deeper.
That shift gave me clarity and confidence in who I am and how I move through the world. It helped me trust that even when life feels uncertain, I’m still guided by my ancestors, by my intuition, and by the woman I’m continually becoming.
Now, I help other high-achieving eldest daughters do the same and navigate transitions with clarity, confidence, and ancestral support, so they can create lives that feel aligned, rooted, and free.
The Work We’ll Do Together
In our work together, I don’t offer quick fixes or one-size-fits-all strategies. Instead, we focus on healing the roots of the patterns that have kept you from your full expression, in life, in money, and in your sense of self.
We’ll uncover the ancestral, familial, and internal stories that shape how you show up, helping you see which patterns are serving you and which are ready to transform. Through guided reflection, embodied practices, and actionable strategies, you’ll learn to:
Reconnect with your intuition, gifts, and lineage.
Reframe limiting beliefs and stories that no longer serve you.
Reclaim your sense of worth, power, and agency
This work is deep, tender, and action-oriented. We move at the speed of trust, honoring your body, your experiences, and the wisdom of your ancestors. Together, we’ll create new ways for you to show up in the world that feel aligned, abundant, and free, so that you can lead and live with clarity and confidence.
More About My Background
I bring a unique blend of ancestral healing, organizational leadership, and integrative coaching to my work. For over a decade, I’ve helped organizations—nonprofits, federal agencies, and for-profits—build sustainable systems, operational strategies, and cultures of belonging.
I hold a Master’s in Industrial–Organizational Psychology and a Bachelor’s in Family Studies & Community Development, and I’m an Accredited Financial Counselor Candidate.
I’m also the Cofounder and COO of the Eldest Daughters Collective, a national healing space for self-identified eldest or only daughters of immigrant and BIPOC families.
My learning path includes training with an ancestral healing coach, reiki master, doula, and somatic embodiment experts, all of which infuse my approach with grounded, integrative wisdom.
When I’m not coaching, you’ll find me at a concert, learning Korean and Yoruba, being a board game enthusiast, watching animal documentaries, and learning K-pop dances.
